Why is iot wrong for an older man to date a much younger women. Let's say a 42 years old man dating a 25 years old women. If they both love each other, commited to each other. he has her best interest in mind and like-wise, she his in mind. What's wrong with that. Why do women in general see this as obsene when an older man dates a younger women, without even checking to see that the couple are very happy together. Please discuss with no bias and be nice....

Due to them being at different stages of life and not having much in common it is hard to understand that anyone would share any interests with someone 20 years their junior and that leaves only physical attraction left as to why they are together.

For me it doesn't matter if it is the man or woman who is older

There is nothing wrong with it whatsoever. I would say that anyone who has a problem with it is shallow and narrow-minded. If you want to see even more bias in this area, try the example of an older woman with a younger man.

I agree. There might be occasions where the younger is in it for the money or something, and the older one likes the tight skin on the younger, but factors like that can exist in same-age relationships, so there's no reason for predjudice against relationships between older and younger people.

I totaly agree with you 'Kevmartin' and 'Eric'. But you should hear the gossip among women when they do see an older man and a younger women together in a relationship. I say this because a i know a couple that fit this senario; they are in love and enjoy each other very much. the remarks I hear: He likes her only because she is young, she's in it for the money (by the way, he is not rich), he is immature, she needs a shrink to tell her that he is a father figure that for some reason she needs ...on and on and on.
the bottom line is they are very happy together, they relate well to each other and it's no one's business. But my question is: why do women think that this is wrong? the young women has repeatedly said that other women approach her (friends, family and co-workers) to tell her that this is worng and she should stop seeing him. What's up with that?

Thanks to all who replied so far. I would like a women's prespective on this as well

Thanks again

What am I? chopped liver?

If so, you're the best chopped liver out there.

My opinion, sorry I'm not a woman, is that gossip and worrying over others' relationships when the members of said relationship appear happy and content, is a better example of some sort of social or emotional deficiency than significant age differences in a relationship.

I met this couple once, the guy was about my age, mid to late 30's at the time, and his wife was about 19 or 20 I think. He sold cars, she was in the military. He wasn't rich and wasn't very good looking - going bald as I remember. She on the other hand, was perfectly hot, and seemed to be of at least average intetlligence. They seemed happy. Why should anyone worry about it?

Sorry, can't tell from the handle if you are a women or a man... Chopped Liver??? LOL
Responding to your earlier post: If they are happy together wouldn't that mean they have something in common. Also, life stages are a superficial thing. What does it really mean? That you are forty and expected to have certain possessions (like a house, a car, a boat, a hefty 401 K account); a professional career/job. And if you are twenty-five you are starting out and don’t have much yet?
Why assume that because of the age difference the relationship is only physical? Plain and simple, two people like each other, enjoy each other, attracted to each other and want to be with each other. Nothing wrong with that.

Well if I may pipe in... I have a girlfriend who married her bo, she was 20, he was 40, not to mention he was the cheif police of a respected vicinity. They are still together 25 years later with two full grown beautiful children. Likewise a gentlman friend of mine was with a woman 14 years older than him for 15 years, at the time he was 32 and she was 46, seemed a bit odd at the time, but they did ok together.. I have to wonder if the idea of an older man loving a younger female doesnt fall into the (jealousy) category when voices mingle in gossip. Men who have the edge are usually older, but not shy of the idea iether. They know what the female desires in many arena's of her life, so this could be key to why you see the older man with the younger female, he takes care of business. Its a little farther and few between with an younger man, but I am only speaking from my own experience, not really knowing what the percent rate is. I dated a man who was 10 years younger than me when I was single, he had a great job and was all together a very nice person, but to young in the mind...to many things to pick up on as far as being with an older woman. Its a catch 22...some win some dont.

Sherri

I think I agree with most of whats already been said. I don't think the issue is one of age but rather one of maturity. Some couples of similar age are poles apart in their level of maturity and visa versa.