I'm hoping that we can have a nice, civil, mature conversation about this topic, but if that's not possible, mods are free to take it down. So, how do you feel about group sex?

Not for me. I have thought about it and my wife and I almost did it a few years back, but I'm not a performer. Sex is a special kind intimacy for me and I could not enjoy the intimacy with a person or people I hardly know. Plus, it's only acrobatics in my view.

My wife and I get the absolute most out of each other sexually anyway.

I didn't want to force the discussion by bringing up my own opinions in the first post, so thanks for sharing yours, rj. What was it that ultimately made you decide against it?

I've done it a couple of times, with good friends of mine. Each time I was the "guest" - they are a couple that have been dating for a long time, and I enjoyed the experience and I would say it made me closer to both of them. However, I'm not sure how I would feel about doing it with someone that I'm actually in love with - I don't know how I would react to seeing him with another girl.

For me, I just decided not to go there. But I have never been a person who needed more than I've had. I have fantasised about it, but have never really needed it. Perhaps it is because I don't trust myself or my wife, or maybe I lack confidence in myself sexually. In retropect, I am glad I/we had not because as I have become older I find it easier to square myself with my children.

There is another part of me which wonders why I do and crave things in my life. From a male perspective, I think it perpetuates an unhealthy spirit for the guy(s)involved. When a man decides to truly deal with issues related to 'woman', we see recreational sex in a different light. I don't need to prove anything to myself at this point and I am satisfied with myself as a man. I have accomplished everything I have ever wanted in life with the exception of enjoying it more.

All that said, I have no problem with those who choose to do so, nor do I look down on anyone for it.

It seems like it would be fun, but it also seems like it comes with a whole lot of trouble that I just don't need. I've thought about it, but I just don't think it's ever going to happen---too complicated.

Between Rjwood and BNS, they said it better than I could.

I voted Other -
I have experienced with my sexuality a lot as a child. Lesbian relationships, threesomes, two couples in the same room, etc etc.

I don't regret any of it. Looking back I can see I was young and immature and shouldn't have done it but it is part of what made me the person I am today. I would never go back and I would never have a threesome or share that part of me with just anyone ever again.

If other people choose to do it, good for them As long as it isn't my fiancé I couldn't care less.

My girlfriend and I have considered a threesome. She is interested in having more experiences with girls; and when she brought it up I found the idea exciting too. But we haven't pursued another partner yet - mostly because we don't know how to approach someone. It seems like a good way to accidentally scare a friend away.

Does anyone have any tips?

Before you find someone to join you guys I would be talking very in depth about what you hope to achieve and the rules of the engagement. Things can get pretty nasty when you bring another person into the relationship, even for just one night. You need to have rules and stick to them. You need to be very open and honest with each other and don't tell the other person what you think will make them happy. You will essentially be watching your partner be intimate with another, even for the pure thrill of girl on girl action it can be very difficult to deal with.

As for bringing it up? You can usually get an idea of what friends are either curious of dabbled in this kind of thing after a few drinks at a party for something similar. I don't know if I would suggest a friend or a stranger - both have their pros and cons.

Thanks, User1.0. That's definitely good advice.

This is something that we have been thinking about for a while. So we have had time to talk about it and to think about rules. We have also talked to other people who have participated in a threesome; and we even attended a discussion on polyamory together. I hope we have done enough to prepare; but I guess I won't know until we try it. I will keep what you say in mind and remember to be careful.

I'll also pay more attention at parties

Hope you don't mind me asking, but curiosity got the best of me. Just ignore the question if you don't like answering.

When you had your threesome with your friends, did you "interact" with both of them? If I understand correctly, you are a woman - I can understand what was in it for the guy - having two women in bed with him, but what did she get out of it?

Also, you said you wouldn't want to see your guy with another girl - what about if the opportunity came up where another guy was to join you?

Ugh. Too complicated. That's another reason why I'd never do it.

That's always been my view.

I could understand it just for a bit of fun and recreation, but not with someone you love. I don't have any desire to try, and as far as I'm aware my girlfriend feels the same way. End of story for me.

I am currently in a relationship that for the first time I am able to experience very open/honest communication about everything, regardless of the topic.
I am given the opportunity to experience different sexual pleasures if I wish. As he has put it, he is my guinea pig, learn learn learn...and i do!
The boyfriend was raised very openly, literally.... Although I had sexual experience before, I have yet to meet another person with as much experience as him, but not in # of partners sense, just in knowledge. I have had desires that i wouldn't bring up to other partners that he now knows of. And whether we are in the process, beginning or end of something new, if at any time i am uncomforable about the situation, he immediatly stops.
So, when the conversation one night turned into the direction of adding additional partners to our sexual life, it's one that he has done with previous partners, and that he does still think about doing with me, but for me, it's just a fantasy. It's been thought about, but it's not something that I would be comfortable with personally, and he respects that. Perhaps it's selfish on my part, but i couldn't stand to see him with another woman like that.

You need to get that idea out of your head right now. You are not selfish for wanting your partner to be faithful to you. Good god woman, slaps some sense into yourself

Promoting monogamy?!

Pffft.

How regressive.

Forgive me for saying this, but it sounds to me like he may just be bringing you along slowly. He may be counting on you eventually giving in.

This is the kind of unhealthy spirit I was alluding to in my earlier post. Some people become addicted to sex with various partners. Be careful!!

Are you asking what girls get out of sex? Well, probably the same things guys get out of it. It is all imagination. It's all about the mate in your head, not the one in your bed.

Yep, there was interaction all around. In fact, the other girl was the initiator. I think girls can be attractive, but I've never met one that I've been interested in having a relationship with. With a threesome, you can explore and experiment with the understanding that it's a purely sexual thing.

I didn't say that I wouldn't want to see it - in fact, it might be quite exciting. I said that I don't know how I would react. It could be good or bad. How do you know unless you try?

In all honesty, he wasn't the one who brought it up, I did out of curiosity.
I do hear what your saying and appreciate the concern, that i will definitely keep track of.

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