Hypothetical:

A girl wants to be friends only, because she has come out of a previous relationship and is moving out of area in two months. But we still have "benefits" and she tells me it can end any time, I just have to say.
I go along with it for a month and a half, but find another girl I want to have a go at. I want to wait until I see girl 1 again to tell her in person. She asks if everything is okay when I dont answer some txt messages instantly (I was genuinely busy) and I say it's just 'cos I will miss her. It goes on and we end up arguing about how complicated shit got between us. And how she feels used.
I go and see her to talk it out (I am not a talkative person). She understands but doesnt know why I didnt tell her earlier, I tell her I wanted to tell her in person. She still feels used, I have no fucken idea what to do about that. We are still friends, she will be over for a week in 2 weeks time and I want to mention something to smooth it over, because I didnt use her.

What can I say?

Note to hypothetical self: Dont fuck your friends, no matter what.

Like I said, purely hypothetical.

just say what you think, show her this text, don't lie.

I mean just hypothetically.

just be honest. honesty always wins. tell her how you feel and awnser her questions

I have been honest and I have answered all her questions but she still feels the same way.

then it's best to just respect her decision and accept it. in time she will thank you for this and maybe appreciate it

this hypothetical girl that is

Tell the truth and if it doesn't work, say "see you later".

Most importantly:
Well...LEARN SOMWHOW...It's the most important thing about how to get along with women whether they are friends, lovers, wives....

PS: I wouldn't call them "chicks" either....to start with!

The fist thing I would tell you is to remember you can not be responsible for her feelings. She said she feels used. Those feeling come from her. You did not put that there. It sounds like you have done everything the best you could.

I dont call them chicks to their face.
Even though I aint talkative, I made the effort and it went fine, was just hard thats all.
I am not going to tell her to piss off, shes a great person and a good friend, just dont want to be rooting her when she doesnt want a relationship and I do. So I want another girl who wants the same thing as me.

dont we all

But I feel responsible and I feel guilty and want to make shit right if I can.

Isnt there some ancient magic sentence you can say to chicks to make them normal again?

thats women (in some cases and in my experience in order not to offend any women reading this)

and the magic sentance? i just won £7 million on the lottery and i love you

The only ancient magic sentence I know of is I love you....but then again I don't know much!

There is a magic wallet (sorry... )

If it was just a "woman" I wouldnt mind, but shes a friend too.

Lottery? Maybe I can buy her somthing, 'tis her birthday soon anyway, an early present might help. Agree/disagree?

ergh, i suppose you dont know about the lottery. anyway preasantsare allways good. just make sure its "her" if that makes sense, otherwise give up. dont seem to desperate

Yeh I know what the Lottery is, just gave me a different idea.

ahhh okay. just respect her diecison is my overall advice

I know this woman. I've known her for more than nine years now. And as time has gone by we started having feelings for each other. Very strong feelings for my part, and every day they grow even stronger. But - Since we started out as very close friends, and she being the queen of beauty, in my eyes, I've always held back even that I feel the way I do. Late last year it became very clear to me that it will only be a matter of time before we take the next step and get involved more seriously in a relationship.

I've never told her about my feelings in a direct way. Only been there for her no matter what she did, no matter whom she chose to be with setting myself completely aside. Now you might just say that I abuse myself which I do not feel that I do. I just know, that the day will come where we get together. Now - Is not telling her about my true feelings a lie? No - I would be blind and foolish if I didn't already know that she knows all about my true feelings and the biggest mistake I can ever make is not being aware of that.

Unlike you I do talk a lot when I'm in her company. She does too. But still - I would be in serious trouble if I did not give her the credit of being able to think for herself. Not saying that you do so, but it seems to me that you are hurting yourself without any reason. Her feeling used by you are, in my experience the standard female reaction to rejection. Some women just don't know how to overcome being rejected by a man - The simple law of human nature. Don't take the blame, she will overcome being rejected and if she doesn't don't be hard on yourself, it's not your fault.

Magic sentences that help you with girls. They don't exist, even magic wallets don't help. "I love you" doesn't always cut it either. Something that I have noticed about most girls is that they can be VERY stubborn. My girlfriend is, and I have to deal with it. Be nice to her, and tell her the truth. If she doesn't bring up the subject of the whole thing that happened and she seems fine, then it might be best to avoid it.

Gifts can also help and hurt. She could be like "AWW! That is so sweet of you! Thank you! *hug*" or she could be like "You think this makes it all better!!!!!"

Basically all of this depends on the girl. If you know her well enough you should know what to do.

This is all hypothetical of course

I'd let it lay. You were honest with her -- that was the right thing. There's nothing else to say. If she brings it up, fine. If she doesn't then you shouldn't either. Talking it into the ground isn't going to help anyone. Don't feel guilty over it. It sounds like you did right by her, so if she feels used she's just going to have to deal with it on her own terms. The best thing you can do is to start putting it behind you.

And don't sleep with your friends anymore.