Do any of you have trouble hearing clearly?

Yesterday while at the school where I tutor some of the kids, there is this boy who comes down to the library in the afternoon with one of his classmates.

This boy is older. He looks to be about nine or so. He also looks tall for his age. Anyway, he usually makes an awful lot of noise and he talks so loud that that his voice carries and he has that ear-piercing voice where one might want to block their ears.

Well, during that time, he was acting up and started arguing with the other boy. The boy who I tutor at that time - the one who admires me a lot, told me that the kid makes too much noise.
I agreed with him. I kindly asked the boy if he could lower his voice because my student and I WERE reading to each other. He quieted down, but then he started back up again!

He made some controversial remarks that got him into some hot water with the school personell! He also went out into the hall yelling and shouting! Then one of the staff had spoke to him privately about all the disturbence and noise he was making. I also thought that he was being very rude, obnocious and inconsiderate!

Well, come to find out about twenty minutes or so later, his mom, who is also a teacher there, told us that he has a hearing problem and that he can't hear too well - hence his sometimes extreme ear-piercing loudness!!

I quickly changed my train of thought and felt so bad for the boy. None of us even knew that he was hearing-impaired. His mom should have let someone know this earlier.

But nevertheless, I thanked her for telling me and the others, and told her that it was nice to meet her. I told her that some people say I'm loud as well, but I don't have a hearing problem at all. I just get excited at times.

I kindly asked the boy if he could try to talk a little lower when he comes down. He said ok. I told him that it was ok and that it was not his fault. He DID also apolligize to everyone for his controversial bahavior. I shook his hand and said to him that if he wants to talk to me that he's more than welcome to. The poor thing!!

Sometimes you just don't know if a child is hurting deep down emotionally until you find out the real reason. A lesson learned by me; I will NEVER think of a child as a bad one because I never know what's really going on with him or her deep down!!!

Hi Daquan..

Funny you mentioned hearing..I have to get mine checked here shortly because I am running into problems with it..been hearing a loud moaning sound for months now,,but no-one else is hearing it. I have been plowed in the head several times in my past..could be resulting from that as well.

Children always get the brunt of the left over action with adults who dont know how to love..care or give. When I pray at night I immediately start praying for all the children in the world..it breaks my heart to know that incest..abuse, neglect and much more are raping our children of a healthy adulthood. Just have to continue to pray for Gods mercy on their lives and know the key to our future is through these precious ones..keep your chin up here and know your good works will be rewarded..the bible does say..such as these belong the Kingdom of Heaven..

Sherri

No, I hear just fine.

Thank you!

I just feel so badly that I prejudged this kid who probably was already reaching out for help and he didn't really know where or how to get it. Whatever his mom is doing to help him, I hope that she is.

But if not, why doesn't his mom try to help him with this problem? He qualifies for disability, whether she knows it or not.

HI Daquan..

Hey you cant be accountable for something you were not aware of..dont beat yourself up here..but..look at this as a subtle reminder of the things to come in regards to the children..Maybe the Lord is gently putting apples of gold in your heart to make you aware of children even more in need..see my point? You are evidently without question in an area of progression with learning as are these children..so take something good away from something un-fortunate and apply it with knowledge for future references. You understand to look beyond the childs life..you already look into the heart..now you have been prompted to look otherwise, and with good reason.

My thoughts are with the mom situation, if the child is fully capable outside of hearing issues, she will not bring his deafness to attention, reason giving because she may be trying to preserve the childs feelings in the long run..One slip of the tongue to the wrong teacher and a another child hears it..that outcome may be futile. It may begin to have a domino affect on the children and they may bring into light his deafness. Now some children will be considerate..others will make fun of him. It happens all the time.

Even a teacher could say..now children we need to be respectful of this child with this hearing problem..< and she totally means well, but there is always a bad apple in the group..you know what that means..

However the mother probably should validate his deaf issue with the teachers and stress that is should not be communicated with him or the other children..by no means and say it very clearly..so if and there are any slip ups with..somebody ( teacher ) mainly..then they will pay..

Sherri

Hi. Thanx for your concern!

That's what I'm now so concerned about when you said that some of the other children might have pity and heart-felt consideration for him like I now do. That part is good.

But I'm more worried about the children who won't pass up the pure chance to "knife him in the back or purely put him on the chopping block", so to speak, poke pure fun at him and just make his life there and elsewhere a pure living hell!!

That could have a dangerous psycological effect on this child, and either one of two things could very well happen. Don't want it to, but the other children could wake up a sleeping monster!!!

The child may end up dangerously hurting or killing someone, or killing himself (suicide), OR EVEN WORST, COME TO SCHOOL ONE DAY WITH A WEAPON AND START ASSAUTING AND KILLING INNOCENT PEOPLE!!! Like a Columbine-style attack!!

This, I don't want, neither do others. If any of the other children start making fun of him while the child is in my presence, I WILL immediately defend him, and kindly ask them not to poke at him. That type of behavior will not be tolerated my me!! Just like I'll immediately defend my little buddy if the other kids try to poke fun at him because he has a reading problem. I will not yell or hit them at all, but I WILL let them know that they shouldn't do those things.

They must be made to understand that it's not nice to make fun of, embarrass or shame others because they are suffering from a health issue. I can feel this boy's "pain" because I suffer from health problems as well, and it's not an easy thing to have to struggle with everyday life when you have impairments with your body. I just hope that the boy gets or is getting the care that he needs to help him deal with these issues.

We hear a lot about school children going bonkers and turning into raging little monsters, maiming and killing innocent people. A lot of these children vent their anger at the wrong people because of this! Two little boys there already lashed out at me and were trying to hurt me because they were angry with someone or something.!! They really didn't hurt me, but what if they were 12 or 13?!!

One might take this very lightly and think absolutely NOTHING about a 12 or 13-year-old boy threatening them, but I don't, since I might not have the strength enough to fight them off if they were to come at me! A little boy can have the strength and power of a fully grown man when he's mad or angry and wants to take his anger and frustration out on you!!


Some of them are nice and treat you with the utmost respect, while other 13-year-old boys are just mean and downright nasty!!! And he doesn't care if he hurts or kills you!

Hi Daquuan..

Hey the future is more than likely inevitable..he must make a choice to not let outsiders disrupt his life..My daughter dated a man who had hearing issues..everything was at this boys hand..and it was all to his benefit...yet he continued in the ( woe is me ) attitude and allowed it to wreck his life..Now..with positive people like yourself impressing this boy.. being there for him in the future can have an increasingly positive affect..Ultimately the choice will be his..to do bad or good regardless of the puds who continue to torture him..I feel for him..but let me say..I was one of them..so I know things..no I did not have hearing ails as mentioned here..but I was hidden in the background alot..its tough..

Sherri

Hi!

I think I can sense what this boy is going through as well. Though I was never hearing impaired, i used to get picked on, poked at and sucker-punched as a kid in school.

Finally one day, I'd come to the realization and conclusion that I had just about enough of that crap and I started fighting back! One boy used to always embarrass and make fun of me, then sucker-punch me in the face.

That day, I was just fed up with him anf fought him back. He was a damn bully and picked on kids who wouldn't fight him back. After I scrapped with him and decked him in the eye, he left me alone and everyone else did as well!! It only took one boy for me to show the rest of thost meanies who was boss!

I never had any more problems with them after that. They knew that I meant business!!

Hi Daquan..
been there done that..more than several times actually as my mother could not get her feet grounded, she was persistent in re-locating. It never prospered myself at all. One time a rather big tall gal became my friend in junior high. She started picking on me one day ( out of the blue ) I was like holy cow...whats up with this broad..

We were sitting in choir one afternoon and she began to repeatedly punch me in the arm..well I was petite and frail..after two hits I almost came out of my chair..Now for some odd reason I was pre-occupied ( go figure )..she hit me and knocked my out of deep thought and back into existence. That disturbed me terribly so I took my fist and slammed it into her arm as hard as I could. She was mystified..just sat there staring at me..then announced to me that I was to be slayed later after choir. Let me tell you..thats when I had my first panic attack..I was dead after music class.

We made our exit and she never said a word to me...just gave me dirty looks and continued derogatory remarks through the coming week. So that was one for me..but I had been through several of those lil episodes in my life. I dont think its taboo to many of us at all..

Sherri

Hi!

Yeah, there's a little girl at the school who also tourments and insults my little buddy - the one who admires me a lot. She's in the same classroom as he. But she's tutored by another person, not me. I don't want to tutor her.

Last week he got mad because she was playing a game and he wasn't. He flatly refused to read for a while. But the coordinator and myself were able to get him back into reading with me. My theory is the only reason that he did that is because the girl went to get a game first. I didn't see it because I was in the mens' room.

The following day, the girl was just being a total brat, putting him down and saying insulting things to him like; "You can even read. I'm better than you. You'll never be as good as me." The boy didn't seem to be bothered by it, but I certainly was! I asked her not to say those things, but she just won't stop.

There was a spinning globe in the library and the boy wanted to look at it. He had it first. Long story short, she just kept grabbing it from him! And she never once asked him to let her use it!! I just had enough and said to her; "Come on, let him use it, he had it first!"

At that point, I was just fed up with her and had raised my voice a little! I later spoke to the coordinator and told him that my little friend and I need to be in a separate room. He agreed.

I'm not going to tolerate her crap from her!! I will not stand for her putting my little buddy down like that! It might not bother him, but it really urks the hell out of me!! I will defend him and let her know that that is the wrong thing to do. The boy has reading difficulties, yes, but that does not give her the right to humiliate and embarrass him like that!!

I love this boy very much as if he were my own son, and I'm not going to tolerate her trying to humiliate and embarrass him like that. When she's around us, she will either treat him with respect or else we'll go in a separate room to read and talk!

Hey Daquan,,
I got it..and I understand..believe me totally..but..dont forget..he must learn to fight his own fights to get the victory, even with a female..I feel for him I surely do..and its so like parenting to go in and rescue the child..but continued salvation will result in the wrong conclusions. Pace yourself here..the boy only needs to be delivered for a time..he too will have to make a decision to rise up and show her flame..in this she will find her place to respect him.

Sherri

I guess he doesn't like to fight. And yes, he'll have to put her in her place at some point in time.

But I'm sorry, I just can't help it, I like him a lot, and I'm not letting her insult and humiliate him while they are in my presence. I care very deeply about this boy, and I don't want him to be treated like crap!

Maybe she likes him or is just trying to push his buttons to see just how much she thinks she can get away with over him. He was pissed at her the other day. I know how he feels though. Why should she be allowed to play a game when she's supposed to be reading as well?

I went through this also in school when I was his age, and people used to have my back against bullies and troublemakers.

I hope that she's not in his class next school season!