Who are your frienimies? Who can you really count on to be there when you need them most?

Have you ever been hurt by someone during a relationship or a friendship, broke up with them, and now they want to come back into your life, claiming that they've cleaned up their act after they've wrecked you life and your career?

Now you might be saying to yourself; "What is a frienimy?" I saw this on the Today Show this morning, and it had me thinking. Remember Jody Watley's old song Friends? Who do you know that can really be your friend or enimy?

A frienimy is someone whom you thought was your friend, they pretend to be your friend, yet they did something in the past to hurt you, such as stealing something like money, your lover, told a lie on you, or even stole something of value from you so that they can sell it for money for drugs!

Drug addicts, bums and alcoholics are NOT your friends. All they do is try to bleed you! You only hear from people like this when they want a favor, and it's usually money or something they want to "borrow" from you with no intentions at all of returning the flavor back to you!

I was hurt by three people whom I thought that I could trust. All three of them were only using me to get whatever they could get out of me!! They all were, or still are crack monsters! And I refuse to have anything else to do with them! Then, ALL THREE of them wanted to come back into my life. I told them no, that it just wasn't going to happen again.

These kind of people are so toxic! The minute you let them supposedly be your friend or lover, they stab you in the back. Again. They're not to be trusted. Ever!

There's an old saying thas goes; "Crap stinks, it rubs off and the smell travels!" In other words, if you're seen with them by others, they're going to think the worst of you!

Some people you just have to cut out of you life for various reasons. I believe I am a good friend and try to be there for people but I had an incident in my life where a friend piled so much of her problems on me and became so dependent on me to help her out of crisis after crisis I ended up having to cut her out of my life to save my own mental health.

When being a friend to someone starts to adversely affect your own life significantly for whatever reason I think this is when you have to call a halt.

I know someone who did that to me last year. She has mental issues, and she became a leech, a parasite! Every damn time she called or came over, she wanted favors. And she was also asking me for money for, and wanted me to buy were some nips, cigarettes
and scratch tickets.

I paid her cable bill for her one month because the service was turned off. And the very next month, she wanted me to pay it again because it got shut off again!! I had to tell her no. Then she just kept on asking for money for laundry detergent, soap, bleach and room deodorizer!

It just went on and on. And while her boyfriend was visiting me, she was calling here every 10 minutes or so! Both of them drank like a fish. I tried to help him get off alcohol and even that turned out to be a waste of time. So I cut them both off. They were just too damn toxic!!

She was on crack. A crack monster. They'd start drinking as soon as the package store opened. By late afternoon they were both wasted!! Then they had to sleep it off, but when they did that, they'd wake up and start all over again!! They both have mental
issues.

But the bottom line is that I had to cut them loose because they were bringing me DOWN, DOWN DOWN!! Put simply, they basically were 100% pure bums!! Stemmers!