If it works for you Sherri, I wouldn't say ever 'don't do it, because it will leave you dependent on the steps instead of the booze'. The key is to find what works *for you*. But one thing is for sure - if you do choose the steps method - controlled drinking is not an option, period, exclamation point! Controlled drinking is basically throwing the steps out the window. I would also recommend (just as another tool I have seen used very helpfully by some, either alongside or without steps method) good psychotherapy (meaning therapy with a good therapist - which can unfortunately be a hard thing to find). Can be expensive though. Meditation can also be great for many people.