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Originally Posted by terabyte1  With the greatest respecto to you, I guess you may have homophobic tendencies  May I qualify that.
As a parent myself, with two children, one of whom (the older one), is now married in a hetero-sexual relationship, I allowed the brevity for my children to read what they like - within reason! My only caution was to steer my children away from dodgy websites that showed porn of one sort or another - If they went there behind my back then I didn't know about it!
Books are another matter. I've found several books in my son's room (relating to teenage boys exploring their sexuality with each other). I firmly believe that boys or girls have to work out where they stand from a sexual standpoint, so long as they are not coerced into a given stance by an older person (for instance to show 'them' to be the leading light on a given subject).
An older person in this example, might be pushing a boy or girl to go down that older person's proclivity of choice and if that older person is using it for their own ends - it is wrong. It makes that older person no better or worse than a paedophile.
Homosexuality I've come to believe, is as natural as being a heterosexual or bisexual - so long as they are above the age of consent. Naturally, as teenagers, we all 'experiment' to a greater or lesser degree, and at some point we set our own choices in our development of ourselves.
That choice is of no concern to the Government or anyone else, be they a religious minister or a parent. We may not like their choices, but its what makes our children who they are - unique!
I hope this discussion wasn't too heavy?? 
terabyte1 |
It isn't heavy at all, even though it is very moving. Children will eventually choose their own path. It is up to us to try to steer them in the right direction. A child who begins to feel the feelings of homosexuality usually begins at a very early age, like between 8 or 9. Especially young little boys!!
They start to like and admire adults of their same sex, and in time, they seize the opportunity to get real close to an adult, and their feelings will start to grow and escalate higher into an even fonder feeling of a sexual nature!
Some kids, at times, can't help their sexual preference, especially young kids at age 8 or 9 and older kids around 12 to 13 who are entering adolesence. There IS a young actor who is gay and stars in the show Ugly Betty, and he's only 13!!!
Kids at times, WILL explore & play with their friends' private parts to see if they can make their friends get an erection, mainly with their friends during camp, during week-long or weekend sleepovers, after-school visits, or privately in tree club houses during the summer.
And it's usually kids of the same sex who hold these very secret and elite private meetings away from their parents and other siblings whom they think might classify them as being gay or sexual perverts. Mainly young little boys!!
I was introduce to it this way, and exposed to it as a child at only fourteen, by another child while at camp. The 13-year-old boy who kept on following ME around! He wasn't there to learn about nature, camping or the woods. He was there mainly for sex because he had a voracious hunger and lust for it, and he wasn't stopping at anything to get it! He wouldn't stop until he got what, or in this case, WHO he wanted - which was me!!
I was petrified and scared at first, didn't know what it was about, and since it was my first time, I was deathly afraid that the boy would hurt me, but the boy promised me that he wouldn't hurt me. And he kept his word - he didn't. So I let him molest and fondle me and throw himself at and on me. I let him make his moves on me, and he was beginning to make ME feel good as well!!
He had a serious crush on me and he liked me an awful lot. I eventually gave in to his advances, got turned on by him, and we were best friends for a long time! And yes, we also messed around with each other during after-school visits, clubhouse sessions and weekend sleepovers. He was my "first love"!!
I just couldn't wait for the afternoons and weekends to come around so that I could be with my buddy!! We did EVERYTHING together in camp! We were safety buddies in the pool, during overnight stays in the woods, and even at story time with all of us sitting in front of the fire!! We even ate together at the mess hall! He was my best buddy!!
But if it weren't for him, I'd probably never know at that young age what it was like! Kids at times, meet an older person and they become so attached to them that they will even begin to feel more than just a happy friendship with them. Like what the 13-year-old boy felt with me.
A small child - especially a little boy at about age 7, 8 or 9, will at times get so powerfully close and aggressive in bonding a friendship with an adult male, that he usually begins to feel a lot more than just a special bond with that adult, to the point where he starts blatantly "feeling a sexual attraction" toward the adult and will often get an erection in his clothes!!
The expression "a mother always knows" usually can tell when her little boy or girl is becoming gay is always about 99.9% accurate. My mom suspected me before I finally came out and told her. She said that she knew all along about me being gay since I was about 9 years old!! I would admire all of the men who came over to visit, and would immediately make friends with them and sit in their laps for long periods at a time. I'd get horny doing that! And it DID feel so good!
Now I hope that my little buddy whom I tutor at school who is so aggressivley close to me, is so fond of me and likes me an awful lot is not "that way" or "over the fence" because I don't do that with kids. Even if he is, there's still no reason why I shouldn't like him back or help him at all. I love him just the same. He hasn't made any sexual advances or moves on me, so I imagine that he isn't into it. Even though he sometimes looks, acts and walks like he might be. But that is his choice if he is. I just don't want any of the other kids to poke fun at him. It could seriously traumatise him!
But he DOES have a pretty strong and aggressively serious tender loving attachment with me though. I still admire him just as much though! This boy wants me to be with him as much as he wants. He takes being with me very seriously!!
One boy did that to me, but I had to kindly say no. He was only twelve and this was in the "80s. Kids themselves WILL at times, try to go after adults. And like you said, that adult MUST put the brakes on and kindly turn the child down! Don't want to be accused of having sex with a child at all!
But now, on the other hand, if it's a teenager who is 16, 17, 18 or 19, by law, they are about grown anyway, and if they do something with another adult, well, that may be a horse of a different color and it's fair game.
Some kids have gay couples as their parents. The gov't has made it a constitutional right in some states where a gay couple can adopt children just like a heterosexual couple would.
But I think that kids SHOULD learn about homosexuallity in storybooks at a young age. Because eventually, they're going to hear about it anyway.
Most kids I know, especially the 13-year-old boy I know in my neighborhood - he'll frown up at it and poke fun at it in a split second. Not that he should like it, but I think he SHOULD be kindly taught to respect it. Who knows, he might end up on the other side of the fence himself before he reaches adulthood!!
I think kids should learn about it in class. It would help them to understand it more when they reach their teens and they would respect it more. So that if & when they see a gay couple walking down the street holding hands, they wouldn't be so quick to poke at them and/or laugh out loud.
The sick society nowadays IS NOT homosexuallity, nor is it heterosexuallity, but rather it's the ancient dinosaur way of keeping kids from at least reading about it at a young age, so that it gradually becomes an acceptance with them and not be thought of as a bad or sick thing.
It only becomes bad or sick when a child is molested, raped or exposed to it otherwise. But if kids were to read about is in class and be made to understand it better, then they might not be so quick to ridicule it before or by the time that they reach about 13 or so.
It's also similar to racism. Kids learn that from their parents, and by the time they are about 12 or 13, they ridicule it and treat a child or adult like crap and start using the N, S, W, OR C-word toward them!!