Bringing up ancient history and recording things to use against them in the future isn't really constructive either. If you have a problem with your SO figure out what some exceptable solutions to the problem would be before you open a discussion about it, then work towards the solution or a compromise once you do.


I am the more quiet one in the relationship, he comes to me to get me to talk because he figures it strange that I dont. In this..he strikes up conversations and through the configuration with it all, I give my point of view. He then forgets it. If it comes up again, he changes the story a bit so it makes me think, he wasnt listening or he too has selective hearing. No biggie, I think he just has things on his mind. So I think, maybe sometimes I should write the important things down, so he doesnt forget...not me. No I'm not a yacker, never was...same issue arose in the first marriage on my behalf, but he was a yacker..he-he.

No infidelity, we practice monogamy out of love and commitment as most, we give each other plenty of space and wiggle room. We seldom ever argue if at all, and respect each other with words, no profanity..its always been that way...just gets to me when he initiates conversations that tend to fly over his head, good man..will never find one like him again.,,as with most relationships...a little overtime with conversations may ease the tension of the guess work. Ya I need to do this..

Sherri