[quote=Twocats;96518]What about things like in-laws? Children? Money? How much or little attention you give each other? Do you constantly fight about stuff? Do you feel "connected" to each other?

I agree with Raz here, I am on the same level with my spouse and it usually is a rarety but by all means very possible.

Well what about in-laws? you should really only interact with them on the holidays, that eliminates stress and wearing out your welcome. Children? are they yours? his? both? grown. young? all these things matter to help with a solution..or at least an avenue of hope.

My husband is an acts of service kind of man...do we connect, ya in many ways, and then there are the dry bouts, its human nature. If you can write the good things that apply down on paper, and then add the irritating every day woes, then see which out weighs the other, that might help. Ask yourself,what do you want from him? you have to explore things, I did this, I just decided to open doors that seemed closed between Mike and I, and it worked, who knew he would be into my ideas of increasing our closeness and exploring..you would be surprised, our men want nothing more than for us to be happy, and let me tell you especially with them.

This is out there a bit but I will danger myself to say it.

it has been known that women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex, now if you apply this accordingly, and with wisdom, I will say it is the apple pie waiting to be sliced, done right, its the best pie you will ever eat.


Sherri