I think commitment is a choice that you make, and you choose to break. And breaking commitments is a real sign of weakness of character ... but that's just my opinion.
I'm also a complete non-believer in 'one true love' nonsense. Love is something that can be both grown and cultivated.
For those that read (I regrettably no longer ever seem to get time to do so), I highly recommend
The Road Less Travelled, my M Scott Peck. Peck was a Christian, but not dogmatically so, which is a fine and rare quality (so many religious folks are more concerned with making everyone else share their views than they are about living the life their faiths outline they should). This summary of the book from wikipedia describes it well:
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In the first section of the work Peck talks about discipline, which he considers essential for emotional, spiritual and psychological health, and which he describes as "the means of spiritual evolution". The elements of discipline that make for such health include the ability to delay gratification, accepting responsibility for oneself and one's actions, a dedication to truth and balancing.
In the second section, Peck considers the nature of love, which he considers the driving force behind spiritual growth. The section mainly attacks a number of misconceptions about love: that romantic love exists (he considers it a very destructive myth), that it is about dependency, that true love is not "falling in love". That type of love is cathexis, it is a feeling. Instead "true" love is about the extending of one's ego boundaries to include another, and about the spiritual nurturing of another, in short, love is effort.
The final section describes Grace, the powerful force originating outside human consciousness that nurtures spiritual growth in human beings. To do so he describes the miracles of health, the unconscious, and serendipity
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M. Scott Peck - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia