One thing I learned to stay away from very early on in my parenting was manipulating my children phycologically.

I found that if I spoke to them from true 'conviction', they heard that in the sincerity of my voice and saw my love for them in my eyes. Once I learned that, I would constantly make sure my heart and my mind were in sync before I attempted to teach and inform.

I am not a believer in managing relationships. But then the only thing I do practice managing is money and other material possessions.