Basically, and again this is for older kids - elementry school age, you take away all their priveledges for a short period of time when they do something wrong. The younger, the shorter.

The trick is the short period of time. Say you take everything away for the rest of the day for a kindergarden age kid, they'll just get used to it and after an hour, that's the world as they know it, and they're looking for something else. So maybe you take everything away for half an hour. When they get close to middle school age, then maybe take everything away for half a day or even a whole day.

During teaspot, my kids are allowed to read a book of their choice, or write. That is the only two activities permitted.

Also, you want to use verbal warnings before you sentence them. But its a great way to desalate things and substitutes yelling or spanking.