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Originally Posted by belay  thanks rjwood. just gonna talk to her about it next time i see her and be completely sincere and honest about everything, hopefully she doesnt get offended. |
When you do speak with her, try to take responsibility for your own feelings. Avoid using words like 'you' and 'your' and stick to 'I' and 'me'.
For example, rather than saying; 'I find it hard to trust you because I think you are being dishonest with me', say, 'I find it hard to trust people sometimes, because I have trust issues.' The first example is making her responsible for your feelings regarding mistrust, the second is a confession that you have trust issues, you realize it, and you are not blaming her for them. The truth is, any feelings you have were there before you ever met her.
Besides being honest, this will make it more palatable for her when you explain that you were looking into her forum posts and suspicious of her.
It is very important to learn to respect your partners boundries of you want to create an environment for a mutually respectful relationship.
I hope this helps.