For me, I just decided not to go there. But I have never been a person who needed more than I've had. I have fantasised about it, but have never really needed it. Perhaps it is because I don't trust myself or my wife, or maybe I lack confidence in myself sexually. In retropect, I am glad I/we had not because as I have become older I find it easier to square myself with my children.

There is another part of me which wonders why I do and crave things in my life. From a male perspective, I think it perpetuates an unhealthy spirit for the guy(s)involved. When a man decides to truly deal with issues related to 'woman', we see recreational sex in a different light. I don't need to prove anything to myself at this point and I am satisfied with myself as a man. I have accomplished everything I have ever wanted in life with the exception of enjoying it more.

All that said, I have no problem with those who choose to do so, nor do I look down on anyone for it.