Great points rj, and as this inability to examine oneself for the source of social frictions is consistently externalized onto each other as an irresponsibility we each become either victim or victimizer.
Which can lead to people becoming skilled as either of those two rather than skilled at introspection and understanding.

Which as a tool for remaining more appropriate to extroverted concerns and relationships would lead to a compound action of aggregated social intelligence that would grow according to naturalized systems of humanity rather than being stunted by authorizing institutions and governing structures of religiosities like "the winning political perspectives as the right ones to believe"

I know sentence length…

Back to your comments, feelings are one of many aspects of our intelligences that we ignore or pit against others for basically political reasonings and theologic and social loyalties