I think tolerance requires some compromise, and compromises can be bad! Frustration will break tolerance, so better talk to get as agreeable compromises as possible. What Mr. Jaggers is stating is not exactly easy. (people often say something like "just do that", but it is not like that)
Happily we do not have to tolerate everything; if it does not touch you do not have to be able to tolerate it. On the other hand, many things can potentially touch you, and you have to be prepared.