Intersting take on it.

I see tolerance (tolerating) as a passive verb, if you will allow me. I guess there are times when I see it on more conditional grounds, as I think you are suggesting. When I torerate something or someone, it is usually because I have no vested interest in what they may be doing or saying, nor do I inject or project my conditions on them (if I find myself doing that, I usually realize I need to re-examine my motives and/or intentions). I don't make a right/wrong judgement about their actions or activities, unless I see it as violating anothers civil, human or other naturally afforded rights, and that usually has to cross a certain threshold of precieved invasion which is internal.

Acceptance, for me involves that vested interest I spoke of earlier. Whether that interest be important or close to me personally or at a distance, makes little difference. It infers, at a minimum, that some consent on my part is necessary,